One of the most critical part in relationship is understanding your partner, whoever it may be irrespective of the gender. I find many people say that their boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t really understand them, sometimes it happens to be the case they find their partner over reacting to a particular situation and that often lead to break up or critical disturbance in a relationship. So it would be helpful if you know the reason why many people tend to over react to a particular situation, when you know the reason you can very well able to correct it as well and there by you can maintain a good and also very healthy relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
We as average and normal humans tend to relate with people through our past, we carry our own wounds which were made by others years before from the time we were born, you might have got hurt by your dad, you might have got hurt by your friends, relatives or even some unknown person you don’t remember anymore, but still we carry the wounds that are created by these people without our own knowledge.
Just a couple of weeks before I happened to meet one of my friends whom I haven’t met for more than a year and I found him in a strange outfit and so I just happened to made a comment about his looks that “he looks like some alien” and he made me realize that he was certainly not happy with the comment I made about him through his reply, he made a comment that was really not that pleasant to hear, He started to make fun about my looks in an even more rough way and I felt that he was over reacting to the situation and I tried to convince him that my intentions were not to hurt to him and the conversation finally came to an end.
Things like this do happen often in real life, you might tend to make funny comments about someone and when they happen to hear it, they tend to react more roughly than you might have expected them to. Things like this do happen not because your comment is aggressive or very offensive in nature, its because of the fact that there might be a lot of people in the past who might have hurt the person on the particular context, like when I made a funny comment on my friend’s looks, he was over reacting to the situation, this is a clear indication that there were people who hurt him in the past about his looks. So the injury is already there, the comments you make on your partner or whoever it may be, its just might be hitting the wound that is already present for years unhealed.
To relate to the person you love here and now, you must be very watchful about the fact that you are not bringing your past in to action, but instead you are just responding to the situation here and now. Also it would be helpful if you know the weakness of your partner and relating to him/her accordingly.
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