I am not really against any marriage counselors, but are they really helpful in solving the problems between the couples?
Problems between the couples broadly may be due to.
1. Marriage at early age, many people tend to get married early in the 20s or some of them even do get married at early nineteens too, and these people tend to go for divorce usually at a faster rate than others. They think they love each other and understand each other very well and want to go for marriage soon but these kind of marriages are bound to fail in majority of the cases as both of them find it too hard to cope up with the responsibilities that marriages brings in, They think they are too young to take up the responsibilities of the marriage.
2. Low Income groups: some people find it hard to run a family and maintain a family due to low income they get. So they tend to go for divorce.
3. Very Poor inter-person relationships, these kind of couples tend to discourage each other and fight most of the time. again these people are in a high risk to apply for a divorce soon
There are also other categories where married couples who tend to get divorce but these three are the most prominent ones.
So again the question comes in, does marriage counsellings work for these people? mostly the answer for these three broad categories is no again there may be some exceptions.
So marriage counseling is utterly useless?
Not really there are category of couples where counseling really helps. there are young couples who don’t really love themselves for sex or money, they may have some misunderstandings and those couples tend to love each other, but due to some little problems they tend to fall apart and marriage counselings works very good for these people as they are mostly tend to open to new suggestions.
There are other category of people where the couples really don’t want to get together and just attend the marriage counseling due to compulsion of others and these people are normally not open to any new suggestions. So counseling works very little for them as they are decided with what they are going to do about their married life in advance so these counseling really doesn’t work that much on these people.
Whatever may be the category you fall under unless you are open to new things, married couples are tend to fall apart and eventually go for divorce. Mostly the problem is prominent when neither of them are ready to adjust to each other. But people who are reluctant for new suggestions never succeed in any relationships as adjustment is what relationship is all about. So its not really marriage counsellings are waste of money and time, when couples are really open to new suggestions they do help a lot to get couples together again so its all in the hands of couples whether want to open themselves or they prefer to stay closed.
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