I was just going through one of many possible reasons on what makes your love life little miserable and complicated? and why do people really break up? it always remains a mystery lovers keep breaking up and get back after sometime and sometimes they don’t even get back and sometimes even after they get back together they still have some doubts on their decision to get back, whether they are the right decision to get back to him/her.
But just know that one thing is very certain, we are not spending valuable time in loving each other instead we are just wasting our time in judging the other, whether he is really lovable? or is he/she cheating me? These doubts takes away all the joy which love gives us.
And what is the point in doubting? you want to make sure his/her is genuine? but just look at yourself before doubting the other, are you really loving the other person? when you doubt the other person the answer is no!, may be it may come hard on you but the truth is no, when you doubt the other you are just moving away from love and blocking your way to happiness.
Secondly love should be spontaneous, it should not be based on certain conditions like only when the other person satisfies this and this conditions that I am going to love in return and otherwise I will not love that person. If you do have these limitations just know that you are not really loving that person totally and your love is just limited to some conditions. I know a lot of people just love the person just because he earns more, looks nice and many other reasons just try to see things like this
You love a person because?
Answer: Person + reason
Just think if this is the case.
just minus your reason and think do you still love him.
person + reason = love him/her
person + reason – reason = person = Do you still love him?
If your answer is no what do you really love?
For example you love a person just because he has lots of money and you and that person is sitting in a restaurant and the people in the restaurant treats you really good, the reason is simple. The reason is because the person has money which he will be paying him as tips at the end.
Suppose if the person tells the barer that he don’t have any money with him, then suddenly all the attitude towards that person changes. The same people who treated him so gently will start to go hard on him.
Just think of this very clearly on what you really love, do you love the person or the reasons, I know many people who just love the reason and I must tell you the truth that reasons will always lead you to doubt, When you doubt just know that your love towards that person is not complete and you are just moving with each other for some silly reasons which are not really deep.
Stop loving each other with reasons that will lead to doubts and start moving in to loving a person totally as he/she is, when you really love someone with such intensity though the other may be cheating on you thats the headache of the other person but as long as your love remains pure you live in peace and you will still love the other person though he/she is cheating on you because you accepted the other person completely and more he/she moves with you he will get changed automatically.
Just know its not only illness that is infective, it is a proven fact that wellness is very infectious too.
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